Competitive But Realistic

I'm extremely competitive. A game of Guesstures turns me into a nail-biting, answer-shouting, seat-bouncing freak. Lost field hockey games in high school would leave be seething under my mouth guard and cranky for hours after. And a bad run on the track, forget it . . . devastated. While training for races throughout my adult life, although my mouth is saying, "It's not about my time, it's about having fun", my competitive spirit is screaming, "It's totally about my time!" I was broken-hearted during my training for my first (and last) marathon seven years ago, when just a few weeks before the big event, I injured my knee, causing pain that should have prevented me from going forward with that run. But there was no way I was going to come that far and not go all the way. That day it was truly NOT about my time. It was about finishing. And I did. But cried almost the whole way home from Burlington, VT in pain. Stupid, you say? Yup. It kept me from running for a long time. Last June, I decided I was ready to get back out there. A half marathon this time. Doable. Even though I struggled some days while training with my two girlfriends, when the run came, it was the best I felt in a long time. The runner's high was in full effect. And crossing the finish line with a respectable time and no injuries at 39 left me feeling pretty proud of myself. Running is important to me. A lot of people don't understand it. But I love it. There is a feeling that comes with running that is tough to explain, but anyone else who is a runner knows exactly what I mean and you are shaking your head right now.

So, this cancer thing has put a bit of a damper on any running regimen. My leg muscle have collapsed to the intense build up of chemo . . . deteriorated from the shapely, strong pillars they used to be to these jello-like logs that burn from just walking up stairs. Last week I decided to get out there and try to run a mile and get in shape before the Race For The Cure 5k this weekend. I felt great mentally, so I went for it. The minute I began, I knew I would not last. The feeling was like nothing I had ever experienced. My legs literally didn't work like that anymore. In fact, not only did they feel like they were 400 pounds each, but they couldn't even "move" like the legs of a runner. I likened myself to a woman 9 months pregnant and possibly 10 cm dilated, trying to run. It was impossible. SO after about 200 yards, I stopped. I realized running a 5k was not going to be possible. I cried. I want my body back. I want so badly to run this race with my amazing supporters, some are people who have never run before and have trained for this event. I want to run with them, to show them how proud I am of them for working so hard and reaching their goal. I want to run with my old running mates and my new running mates and my friends and family and all the people who have showed me so much love and warmth and pure, beautiful goodness through these long six months. But I can't. Tough for this competitive girl to admit, but I am just not strong enough yet. I guess I have been using that strength in other ways lately, so I can wait until next year to "run" this race when I am a one year survivor. And I will be running for fun . . . and for time :)